Monthly Archives: November 2011

From a dream to reality

We all have a dream in our hearts and a vision in our head, something that drives our passion! But how many of us actually take the time out to put this vision into reality?

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After 12 years working on Capitol Hill Janice Wallace stepped out on faith….She quit her “good” government job to make HER dream come true.. an online magazine. After years of ups and downs… doubts and tribulations..situations and battles on November 25, 2011 Façon Magazinewas born!

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Façon Magazine is the new voice of emerging fashion designers! There is so many talented designers, at times they dont get there fair chance but with Facon Magazine they finally have a place to call home.

When I met with Janice the first time I was so amused. The intimidation I feared went away as I listened to her story I found myself empowered and made realized the recent changes I was making in my life were right… for ME! Our situations are so parallel and its truly a blessing for me to be apart of HER dream.

Dont let age, time, situations, people… ANYTHING stop YOU from being who YOU want to be! We were all put here for a purpose… you can sit and be blind to the fact or you can put your running shoes on and chase your dream until its yours….

Thank you for having me apart of your team Janice and congrats again!

Make sure you follow @Faconmagazine and check out the website Faconmagazine.com.If you are or know any wonderful emerging designers please send an email to editor@faconmagazine.com

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Beating or spanking?

On twitter today one of my followers posed the issue of child abuse. At first I was not sure why but then I started seeing other tweets about Child Abuse Judge stepping down after video. So me being me I goggled “child abuse judge” and the story immediately popped up about Judge William Adams. Adams was a Judge in Texas who recently stepped down two weeks ago after a video circulated of him “beating” his daughter.

I read over the story and searched for the video. Though the video was taped in 2004, to know that behind closed doors a man who made decisions on others that abused children was doing the same thing angers me on so many levels!

After viewing the 8 minute video, especially with knowing he was/is a Child Abuse Judge, my heart dropped! I almost felt like he got enjoyment out of this. When her mom came in just by the way she was talking I could tell that she was brainwashed or physically/mentally abused by him. At a point she (the mother) seemed scared as if he was going to turn around and beat her with the belt. “Pleading” with how she agreed with him and she told her, Hilary, not to do it and it was the girls choice not hers….

“Judge” William Adams to his Daughter while “beating” her with a belt:

1:20- “Bend over the fucking bed damnit”

1:43- “Lay down or I’ll spank you in your fucking face”

The mother took the belt and told her daughter to lay on her stomach and also hit her with the belt. She wouldn’t give the belt back to William (at this point I felt like she was trying to “protect” her daughter, hoping he would just back down if she stepped in). He leaves to get another belt, when he comes back:

3:06- “I never got my lick in on her. Get on your fucking stomach.

3:29- “I’m going to beat you into submission”

4:50- “I ought to keep beating you”

5:29- “If you even look at me fucking wrong I’m gonna take you in there and ware your fucking ass out with this belt.”

The girl getting beaten in the video is his, then 16 years old, daughter Hilary Adams. Apparently this was going on for a while but it was not until now she decided to speak out about it.

A portion of the CNN article

“Waiting this long to publish it has enabled me to look at it with hindsight and not be so caught up in the passion of the moment,” Hillary Adams said. “I think we do, my mother and I, we do need to try to move on past the anger and just concentrate on getting counseling and help.”
Receiving an outpouring of support after posting the video has been like a form of therapy, she told KRIS, which is based in Corpus Christi, Texas.

“People are believing us now, instead of calling us liars like they have in the past,” she said.

Reading over the CNN Article Williams doesnt see that what he did was a big deal. He says that he lost his temper because she stole the car but in the video you can hear that this particular beating was pertaining to a computer. Just with the contradiction we can see that this has been an ongoing matter.

A quote from Williams taken from the CNN Article:

“She’s mad because I’ve ordered her to bring the car back, in a nutshell, but yeah, that’s me. I lost my temper,” Adams told the TV station. “Her mother was there, she wasn’t hurt … it was a long time ago … I really don’t want to get into this right now because as you can see my life’s been made very difficult over this child.”

Adams continued: “In my mind I have not done anything wrong other than discipline my child when she was caught stealing. I did lose my temper, I’ve apologized. It looks worse than it is.”

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There is a difference between abuse and spankings… a huge difference!

To me abuse in when you act inferior toward your child (or spouse, mom, brother…etc) with your fist, hand, leg, head, mouth or an object to get to them to submit or obey you. Abuse comes in so many forms that sometimes people dont realized when they are being abused. The most identifiable is physical but emotional and mental have the same effects and maybe even worse.

Spanking my be a slap to the hand or behind when the child has done something wrong.

What we also have to understand, depending on what era you grew up in, a spanking was the most effective way to teach the rights and wrongs…and it worked. But with times changing we have to find more “delicate’ or appropriate ways to reach to our children. Cursing and beating them is not the answer.

Honestly I have gotten one spanking in my 25 years of existence. I personally dont see the reasoning for “beating” your child with an object as a means of discipline. However I do believe in slapping hands and pinching as a tool when kids are in the phase of touching everything.

In the video William uses the word spanking a lot… Was he spanking or beating his daughter?

View the video via YouTube


The power of Photoshop!

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A few days ago I saw this picture retweeted on twitter. I first saw the shirt on Chris Brown a few weeks ago and thought it was pretty cool shirt with a bold positive statement!

Me being the Beyonce’ fan (or stan as some call me) when I saw the picture I said “this looks familiar”. I couldn’t quite figure it out but during a random evening at home my light bulb went off! This picture was sent to me from Ralph Lauren after the earthquake in Haiti!! In 2010!

This is the original shirt:

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So was Chris Brown’s shirt photoshopped too??

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If you said yes then you were…… RIGHT! This picture originally comes from Chris promoting his fame album!

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11/1/11

sigh* in exactly 2 months it will be a new year. I must say that this year FLEW by, it seems as we get older the time just seems to fly.

Its a new day. New Month. New goals. New accomplishments! My main goal for this month is to lose some (a lot) of weight! I am trying to find a diet that will fit me! So right now I am just incorporating a lot more fruit, veggies, and water into my diet. I have to get my mind together and get up in the morning and hit the gym!!! It will be a challenge but it will and can be done.

I want to lose weight for ME! And that’s something to remember. If you are happy with yourself, and your health is up to par, dont do ANYTHING anyone else wants or think you should do! Trying to please everyone else will leave you lifeless. People look at me and say “You dont need to lose weight” but I am not use to this weight so it seems like its too much. However I do have a love/hate relationship with it..lol.

Some other goals for this month….. I cant share because they are business related and personal! Key of advice: Everyone doesnt need to know everything. Most things are fine kept between you and yourself! But no worries once the goal is complete I will be sharing you all!

Did you make any wishes today??

In the music world Wale’s Ambition album came out. I have not fully listened to it but I am truly proud of him. It seems that the area he comes from are the main ones constantly trying to pull him/down! Being from the DMV I can see what this area lacks.. support! I am not saying go out an buy every album, if you don’t genuinely like his music, but kill the negativity! There’s so much talent in the area but before we congratulate someone for making it we throw stones because we didn’t have the balls to do it!

I am trying to get the link for Trey Songsz… heard some good stuff about Anticipation II!!!!!!!!!!