Beating or spanking?

On twitter today one of my followers posed the issue of child abuse. At first I was not sure why but then I started seeing other tweets about Child Abuse Judge stepping down after video. So me being me I goggled “child abuse judge” and the story immediately popped up about Judge William Adams. Adams was a Judge in Texas who recently stepped down two weeks ago after a video circulated of him “beating” his daughter.

I read over the story and searched for the video. Though the video was taped in 2004, to know that behind closed doors a man who made decisions on others that abused children was doing the same thing angers me on so many levels!

After viewing the 8 minute video, especially with knowing he was/is a Child Abuse Judge, my heart dropped! I almost felt like he got enjoyment out of this. When her mom came in just by the way she was talking I could tell that she was brainwashed or physically/mentally abused by him. At a point she (the mother) seemed scared as if he was going to turn around and beat her with the belt. “Pleading” with how she agreed with him and she told her, Hilary, not to do it and it was the girls choice not hers….

“Judge” William Adams to his Daughter while “beating” her with a belt:

1:20- “Bend over the fucking bed damnit”

1:43- “Lay down or I’ll spank you in your fucking face”

The mother took the belt and told her daughter to lay on her stomach and also hit her with the belt. She wouldn’t give the belt back to William (at this point I felt like she was trying to “protect” her daughter, hoping he would just back down if she stepped in). He leaves to get another belt, when he comes back:

3:06- “I never got my lick in on her. Get on your fucking stomach.

3:29- “I’m going to beat you into submission”

4:50- “I ought to keep beating you”

5:29- “If you even look at me fucking wrong I’m gonna take you in there and ware your fucking ass out with this belt.”

The girl getting beaten in the video is his, then 16 years old, daughter Hilary Adams. Apparently this was going on for a while but it was not until now she decided to speak out about it.

A portion of the CNN article

“Waiting this long to publish it has enabled me to look at it with hindsight and not be so caught up in the passion of the moment,” Hillary Adams said. “I think we do, my mother and I, we do need to try to move on past the anger and just concentrate on getting counseling and help.”
Receiving an outpouring of support after posting the video has been like a form of therapy, she told KRIS, which is based in Corpus Christi, Texas.

“People are believing us now, instead of calling us liars like they have in the past,” she said.

Reading over the CNN Article Williams doesnt see that what he did was a big deal. He says that he lost his temper because she stole the car but in the video you can hear that this particular beating was pertaining to a computer. Just with the contradiction we can see that this has been an ongoing matter.

A quote from Williams taken from the CNN Article:

“She’s mad because I’ve ordered her to bring the car back, in a nutshell, but yeah, that’s me. I lost my temper,” Adams told the TV station. “Her mother was there, she wasn’t hurt … it was a long time ago … I really don’t want to get into this right now because as you can see my life’s been made very difficult over this child.”

Adams continued: “In my mind I have not done anything wrong other than discipline my child when she was caught stealing. I did lose my temper, I’ve apologized. It looks worse than it is.”

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There is a difference between abuse and spankings… a huge difference!

To me abuse in when you act inferior toward your child (or spouse, mom, brother…etc) with your fist, hand, leg, head, mouth or an object to get to them to submit or obey you. Abuse comes in so many forms that sometimes people dont realized when they are being abused. The most identifiable is physical but emotional and mental have the same effects and maybe even worse.

Spanking my be a slap to the hand or behind when the child has done something wrong.

What we also have to understand, depending on what era you grew up in, a spanking was the most effective way to teach the rights and wrongs…and it worked. But with times changing we have to find more “delicate’ or appropriate ways to reach to our children. Cursing and beating them is not the answer.

Honestly I have gotten one spanking in my 25 years of existence. I personally dont see the reasoning for “beating” your child with an object as a means of discipline. However I do believe in slapping hands and pinching as a tool when kids are in the phase of touching everything.

In the video William uses the word spanking a lot… Was he spanking or beating his daughter?

View the video via YouTube

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