Category Archives: Inspiration

From a dream to reality

We all have a dream in our hearts and a vision in our head, something that drives our passion! But how many of us actually take the time out to put this vision into reality?

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After 12 years working on Capitol Hill Janice Wallace stepped out on faith….She quit her “good” government job to make HER dream come true.. an online magazine. After years of ups and downs… doubts and tribulations..situations and battles on November 25, 2011 Façon Magazinewas born!

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Façon Magazine is the new voice of emerging fashion designers! There is so many talented designers, at times they dont get there fair chance but with Facon Magazine they finally have a place to call home.

When I met with Janice the first time I was so amused. The intimidation I feared went away as I listened to her story I found myself empowered and made realized the recent changes I was making in my life were right… for ME! Our situations are so parallel and its truly a blessing for me to be apart of HER dream.

Dont let age, time, situations, people… ANYTHING stop YOU from being who YOU want to be! We were all put here for a purpose… you can sit and be blind to the fact or you can put your running shoes on and chase your dream until its yours….

Thank you for having me apart of your team Janice and congrats again!

Make sure you follow @Faconmagazine and check out the website Faconmagazine.com.If you are or know any wonderful emerging designers please send an email to editor@faconmagazine.com

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A Brown Girl’s Tale….

A Brown Girl’s Tale….

Kelly Rowland covers the fall (2011) issue of Runway Magazine. In the magazine she shares her struggles growing up with her complexion.
“There’s so much peer pressure growing up, I had an identity crisis. I went to a predominantly white school and I was the only black girl. I can remember thinking: ‘I don’t want to be as dark as I am – I want to be a little fairer.’ I didn’t want to be me…Tina sat me in front of the mirror and said: ‘Girl, look at how pretty you are.’ She made me feel comfortable in my own skin.”

Though my schools weren’t predominately white I did struggle with my complexion. The crazy thing is no one ever called me ugly or made me feel otherwise as a child, it was just something I felt.

I remember not wanting to go out in the sun in fear that I would get a tan. I just didn’t want to get any darker. I had some kind of jealousy or envy towards my lighter friends and classmates. I found myself only being attracted to guys that were either light skin or Spanish. At times I felt out of place when I was with my mother and grandmother because they were lighter. I didn’t understand why I was so dark and they weren’t and I felt like everyone thought the same.

One day in school someone told me “dark skin girls remind me of hood rats.” When I heard that I didn’t not take it heart or believe it but I was hurt as to why someone would think or feel like that, especially because it was lighter friend. I did argue as to why that was a dumb thing tot think, and say, and how un-factual it was. I don’t think they understood the ignorance of their thinking, which is fine because I did not allow that it make matters worse…… (Maybe that was the beginning of my embrace? hmmm)

But like most things, places and things I outgrew those thoughts. I LOVE who I am. I love sunny days and the beach. It still seems crazy to me that I, who use it hate the summer because of the sun, actually goes to the beach to tan. I am in love with my chocolate sun kissed skin! I find nothing sexier than the many shades of dark skin.

I don’t understand what made me feel those ways I use to feel but knowing Kelly’s feelings I wonder if this something all dark skin females go through? Do we all struggle with being comfortable in our skin? Do we all wonder why… or wish we were?

As women we HAVE to embrace, love and cherish everything about us. We have so many beautiful things to be grateful about and appreciate about us. If you are struggling with you complexion, your curvy figure or thick hair…. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Embrace those things that make up who YOU are. YOU have to love yourself first and until you do no one or thing will make you happy. EVERY TIME you look in the mirror or pass your reflection say ” I am beautiful!” (yes I actually did this… but for another reason for another blog…lol) but it REALLY works! After a while it won’t be something you are just saying it will be something you know.

Stay Strong Beautiful Girl….. xoxoxo

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I’ve always thought Kelly was gorgeous… she has a great personality too!


Dear Love

Dear Love,

So many times you have walked out on me and made me feel like I was nothing. You yelled at me, made me feel low. You left me when I needed you the most. You spoke the most hurtful words to me, only for me to forgive you because of who you were. I cant count on two hands how many times I questioned your presence and doubted your existence. Love was not suppose to feel this way. Why would love make me shed so many tears? Why would make me lose sight of myself? Why didn’t love believe in me?

I hate you! No I dont… but I should. When is the last time you made me smile? I cant remember you telling me I was beautiful or wanted to take me out. You never appreciated me, you kept me a secret. Did I mean anything to you? Of course you said I did but you showed me opposite.

I want to apologize to you. For so long I thought it was you who was hurting me. I thought it was you who was mistreating me. I thought it was you wasn’t ready. I thought it was you who lied. It took some time but I realized it wasn’t you, it was those who didn’t know how to use you. The ones who never understood your language and the way you work. The ones who didn’t know your purpose.

How do I know this? Because I finally met you. In meeting you I understand that my heart is supposed to smile, not just my face. That the tears that I shed should come from happiness. That there is nothing that cant be accomplished in your presence.

I love you… and I can say that now and not have any fear in my heart…

– Heart


This Morning….

Happy Monday everyone! I hope that you are using this day as a clean slate and ready for a fresh start! 🙂
 
So I was on my way to work this morning listening to my Beyonce, as always, and at a RED light I happen to open up my facebook. I scrolled down to see my cousin wrote a status:  “as I look back over my life and I think tings over, I can truly say that I’ve been blessed. I have a testimony”
 
I was ok… signing my Bey… but my thoughts were busy… next thing I knew I was in tears. Just thinking about what I have been through and the path that I am on now. For the first time everything just seems right! It seems that my purpose has been shown to me and I am on the road to conquering it! I am just happy! I am human, of course there are situation(s) that can be better BUT I feel that I am on the path to making those situations change.
 
Baby steps… I just have to remember…. baby steps!


Travel Bucket list

EVERYWHERE!
 
I want to go EVERY place that I can…
 
I want to learn how to say “Hello! How are you” In every language
 
I want to step on every beach…
 
I want to practice every religion
 
I want to see every statue
 
I want to walk on every bridge
 
I want to drive on every road
 
I just want to go….
 


My inspiration for the day…

“I dont have to prove anything to anyone, I only have to follow my heart… I RUN MY WORLD”
                                                                          -Beyonce
 
So I missed Beyonce’s Year of the 4, which premiered on three stations at ONE time, but in true fan fashion I caught it online this morning. Though it was not as long as I would liked it was a true inspiration to me.
 
Whenever I watch her “documentaries”, interviews, or live concerts and I feel this rush of inspiration, as if she is standing right next to me, its crazy!
 
From her career, family values, to her relationship (marriage) I think that she one of the top to look up to.
 
For the last couple of days I have had a career and location change on my mind. I know what I would love to spend the rest of my life doing but there is always that FOF (Fear Of Failing) and starting from scratch.. but the chances of me succeeding out number the failure and I must remember that. I realize that the jobs I’ve had… the the things I’ve done, the relationships I’ve stayed in… were not for Dominica…
 
I can see it in her smile that she is happy with her life…. I want my smile to speak for me… so from today (July 1, 2011) I HAVE to focus on my smile… I am going to wake up every morning and ask myself  “Am I following my heart? Who will be happy with this decision?”  If the answer is “No” and “Not me”… I’m changing my mind…
 
Are you following your heart… or is FOF in the way?
 
There’s so much I want to do… I also took from this documentary that in life you HAVE to take time out and enjoy it! Time waits for no one.. I want to spend a 2 years and just travel…  ❤
 
Never be afraid to live…..


1+1….

Beyonce Premiered her new single from her 4th Solo album entitled “4” on American Idol Wednesday… to sum it up: Beautiful Love song! I dont know if it was because she was singing it live or if the song is just the deep, but I could feel every emotion in each lyric…. but I concluded the song is just that deep..lol.
 
I love Bey’s upbeat, (women’s) empowerment, and dance songs BUT her ballots are simply amazing! It seems as years grow on, with the love her and her husband [Mr… Cater]  the songs just get better, deeper, and wiser! I LOVE IT. I am anxious for June 28th… I am praying that we will get more ballads.. that she will take us back to “Dangerously In Love”
 
If I could sing…. I would sing this to you…. :-*
 
 

ps.. I think I have new wedding song 🙂
 
Check out the rehearsal:
 
This is what her husband said about her below:
“Sometimes you need perspective. You’ve been right in front of greatness so often that you need to step back and see it again for the first time. This is the dressing room rehearsal for American Idol.NO MICROPHONE. No effects.”

I think that’s amazing for a man to say about his wife!

 


Spring Cleaning

So today, March 20th marks the first official day of Spring *breaths in a sneezes from pollen*

Around this time everyone is rushing to clean up their houses…trade in their wool coates for colorful cool jackets.. sweaters for t-shirts…but what about the clean up and change of your life?

Are there people that in your life that serve no purpose? Is there dept that needs to be paid? Personal goals you want to accomplish? A job you dread going to every morning?….

Start with the “Spring Forward”

Clean up the “mess” that has been seeming to wear you down. This is something that we should do often but time just flies by and we become content with situations that we KNOW need to be changed. 

Start from the inside and work yourself out. By that I mean start with YOU… Personal goals.. such as eating better, excercising, writing, ect. How can you change as a person? Fingers are easy to point but sometimes we have to point them at ourselves!!

Now for the outside: Those people you “hang” around. Your JOB. Where you live. Your Finances….  by changing YOUr personal issues (inside) those things outside should slowly fall into place because you will have new and better standards then you did before.

Tell yourself that by time summer comes you will be free of those  “issues” that are holding you back in some way.

Dont wait for things to FALL apart… simply think ahead and SPRING forward into change…


Special Reminder for the ladies…

“LADIES: Close your legs and open your mind. Value what you have to offer and only offer it to the individual who has earned it.”
-@TheNotebook

Its 2011….sex still sells and we think it conquers all. It truly saddens me when I hear women talk about how they had sex which such & such and its ok because men do it, its just a double standard. YES it is a double standard that, its ok for a man to have sex with millions of women but if a woman has x number of sexual partners she’s a hoe.

But I’m not looking at it from that stand point.

We want more from a relationship. We want to find true love. We want respect….but having sex with just anyone is hypocritical of those desires. How is having sex with every person you meet going to guide to love? Respect? A healthy relationship? There is nothing wrong with “having fun” but there are boundaries that need to be built and never crossed.

Take time and energy to FIND and PLEASE YOU!

Use your body as a temple….not a tool.


Terrence J tweet’s….

I personally find little enjoyment of “following” celebrities. Most are discussing what tour they are going on or “support my movie coming out” which is fine but I rather follow “real” people.

People who inspire.
People with a story.
People who make me laugh.
People who are growing.

If you use 106 & Park to define who Terrence is…you’re wrong! He has a story that everyone with a dream needs to hear. His story is about great sacrifrice that some of us don’t understand.

When we want something you can’t just sit and wait. You have to attack it! Trust me its hard! But the best accomplishments are made by taking a step back to sprint forward.

Though he doesn’t tweet every single day, he always has something postitive & uplifting to say! His tweets hit me today

@TerrenceJ106: The pain, heartache, & obstacles in life always lead to growth, maturity, & a higher level of consciousness and understanding

@Terrencej106: I’m in a state of deep reflection. Grateful for all blessings while analyzing areas in my life that can be improved upon. Growing.

@TerrenceJ106: We often times stand as guards to the imaginary walls that separate us from our own happiness. Step out of your own way.

Everyone has a story… don’t judge a book by its cover!